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Old Jul 04, 2022, 03:13 PM
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Originally Posted by divine1966 View Post
It’s understandable in your situation. Taking in consideration that she came for a long visit, there is no need to hang out so much. Not like she just came for a weekend. Also since your father just died you actually have a good excuse not to go out at all. And your mom needs you.

I was thinking more of annoying situation when we have to see obnoxious family. Unless we work or are sick or plan on fully estrange, we go to see obnoxious people together. Not saying you must please your husband at all times lol (it’s not my life’s motto), but when it comes to family sometimes you have to accompany our spouses to see families regardless how we feel about them. I think my take on a family concept is tainting my perception of such situations.
Thank you, divine. It helps to receive the validation.

And yeah, I totally hear you otherwise. I think if her visit hadn't been extended, I would have been able to hang in there. But since it has turned into 3+ weeks, and since I already spent the first week or so with her, I guess it's acceptable that I am ducking out a bit more now, especially given all my reasons.

And yes, I agree with you that when it comes to family, we need to suck it up sometimes for the sake of our spouse and for the sake of the marriage.
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