It's not minor, LT. It is bothering you. The lack of consistency does not help re establishing a secure relationship. Kinda waiting for the rug to be pulled under your feet at any time, so how could you get comfortable

I did feel these were micro-abandonments. Not saying 'micro' to minimise their importance but just that what is happening in the now with T seems to be touching a core wound (linked to abandonment?). So it can feel retraumatising (for lack of a better word).

He is really blundering through it all.. and who is left struggling? The client i.e. you.