This guy who I was in a relationship with is giving me mixed signals. I don't think he's going to change. He broke up with me, telling me he can't be in a relationship at the moment, because of work and issues going on in his life. He pursued me and wanted a serious relationship... or so I thought. I truly trusted him too, but now I feel stupid for trusting him.

When I went up to visit him everything was fine, but once I got home, he broke up with me a week later and told me he's just too "busy because of work" which seems like an excuse to me. I feel like it's possible he used me. Because I heard through a friend, he did something similiar to someone else.

At the moment I'm grieving and very vulnerable right now due to me grieving over my brother's suicide. He was close friends with my brother too. He honestly confuses me by his behavior. Everyone who has talked to me, told me he shouldn't have pursued me in the first place. I completely agree with this, and I'm heartbroken about it... because I liked him a lot.

He's giving me lots of mixed signals, he's very hot and cold towards me and I did nothing wrong. He continues to send me messages over Facebook and is very friendly towards me. This was a few days even after him breaking up with me, and telling me he can't be in a relationship right now, but maybe in the future he'd like to pursue me again. I think he's sort of giving me false hope, because I feel something is off, I feel it in my gut. I'm even getting anxiety about it and feeling sick to my stomach about the entire situation.

I continue to keep crying over this due to him messaging me. I'm not chasing after him or reaching out to him, let me remind you. Just wanted to get this out, because I'm so heartbroken over this. I think I may have to tell him to stop reaching out to me, because it's messing with me emotionally. Has anyone else been through something similiar? Please let me know. Thank you. It's been a rough week for me and I've been crying a lot over this entire situation. I'm already stressed out enough with me grieving over my brother, I don't wanna deal with this on top of it too.