I'm so sorry you're still dealing with your T being away, Beth. I would really struggle with that. I hope she's back next week and that things will be OK between the two of you.

And I'd say that we both do experience strong transference, or at least strong attachment, to our T's.

It's difficult with my T at times because he doesn't really seem to sort of buy into the "transference" concept. So I can believe that some sort of reaction to him (especially if it seems bigger than the situation would seem to warrant, like being virtual for a week) is not completely about him, but partly about stuff from my past, like unmet childhood needs, other people who have left me feeling abandoned, etc. Whereas he generally tends to think that the feelings are just about him and the present situation, though he's come around on that some the more I've worked with him. But before that, one time I remember saying something like, "This isn't totally about you" (meaning also stuff from my past), and he said, "I think it is completely about me."

Then, there was the opposite of that with ex-MC, where he thought everything was transference when, no, sometimes I was actually mad at or upset with *him*.