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I... discussed with my T... today... the taking over of my son's fianances.... and getting them straightened out... and then... gradually turning them over to him... my son 23....

My T.. who sees... both my son and me...agreed that this was a good plan....

It has been 6 years... and... it has been a nightmare... at least for me...

My son 23,, is bright.. gifted... responsible... and a wonderful person..
works hard... plays hard...

Yet... his finances... are...beyond...anything.. I cannot decribe... how many thousands of dollars he has gone thru.. at my expense..

So... would say.. I bailed him out too much...

Me... I haven't a clue anymore...

so.... I guess what I would like is some support...here... in this forum...

not to cause a debate on whether I should do this or not...

How... do you think I should go about discussing this with him?????
How... do I convince him this is most definitely... not an attempt at controlling him??? because I am the least controlling parent ever??

How do I do this... and not impact his self esteem???

I thinkt the contiunal failure on his part to... manage his fianaces...has a greater negrative impact.....

any help would be appreciated...

Thank you...

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Does he have ADHD diagnosed? You didn't say.

I'm sorry to say that legally you can't take over his finances as he is an adult. If he willingly hands control of his personal finances over to you, I don't think it would teach him much anyway, and would only make him completely reliant on you, which isn't healthy.

He obviously has respect for you though if he was open with you as his parent about his finances, so I wouldn't worry about him considering you controlling for showing concern. Maybe just try to show him and teach him better methods so that he doesn't end up broke and in debt.

Perhaps you can also encourage him to see a clinical psychologist to help curb his impulsiveness and other aspects of his life?