If it helps at all... My Ex T was always very good at owning her own stuff in person, but we always hit the same struggles as you are describing when it came to anger and hurt through emails. She would say she didn't but her replies to those emails were always very short and very terse. Seemingly upset with me, but as soon as we met in person again things were fine and she apologized and owned her side in the struggle. Very very odd. I never did fully understand it, but thought it might help you to hear it, and maybe give you some hope that next Wednesday things will be ok. I'm glad you have some time to try and sort this before she goes.