Thank you, lonely. I dont think your t is upset or angry with you. She just isnt answering you right now. Whether it's because of a boundary, or because she is being held hostage, or whatever, doesnt matter.

Does SHE have to acknowledge your feelings for them to seem valid to you, or do YOU need to value them more, all on your own? She is the training wheels on your bike. My parents used to tell the story of how i learned to walk - one night my dad saw me whizzing down the hallway past the open bathroom door where he was shaving. Nobody helping me. So maybe im slanted this way!