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Old Jul 08, 2022, 03:34 AM
Lonelyinmyheart Lonelyinmyheart is offline
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Originally Posted by SlumberKitty View Post
This line stuck out to me.

Maybe it is my own "stuff" talking here. So forgive me if it doesn't apply to you. But I'll say it in case maybe it is helpful.

I often have the feeling, or thought, that others are upset with me. It is often an erroneous thought. Just yesterday I thought that I had annoyed my coworker by asking for her help. Turns out she was not annoyed!

Mine stems from my childhood when my mother was frequently upset with me. Usually for something that wasn't really my fault, or that wasn't unusual for a child. It was *her* issues that she was putting on me. But I didn't realize that at the time so now I have this internalized alarm button going off all the time that is in a panic like, oh that person is upset with me!

I don't know if that is the case here with your T. I have no way of knowing how your T feels. But I wondered if you too have a button in you that goes off and into the "someone is upset with me" mode pretty easily.

I can definitely see how this button could have been triggered! I mean, my button would be screaming at me if I were in your shoes!

Often, I have to step back and remind myself that my button is sensitive or touchy and that I cannot know how someone else is feeling. By the way, I often try to fix how someone else is feeling by overresponding to them. It's not even something they have thought about and I am trying to make it better and then they look at me like I'm nuts!

I certainly feel for you. This is a very distressing situation. I hope that your T will be professional and also caring toward you. And if she is upset with you that she owns that as *her* stuff to deal with.

HUGS, HUGS, HUGS, Kit
Thank you. My button has been pushed too. I mean, I feel better at having heard from her. But there's some repair work to do. I always try to tell myself she isn't upset and I don't know how she's feeling, but my upbringing has affected me there as well.
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LonesomeTonight, SlumberKitty