Thank you so much Kit. I feel very down and I'm also panicking about the two holidays. I have stuff going on and I don't know how I'm going to manage. I'm angry with T for going twice in a month, angry with her for telling me the way she did in such a haphazard fashion and angry that she brushed off my need to talk about it. I know she'll hear that when I see her next week, but I feel so upset now and it's five days away. I think the only way to get through her breaks is to distance myself from her emotionally. I know that's because I'm angry though. If she'd told me gently and with compassion I think I'd feel better about it. As it is this is just horrid.