Integrative can cover all sorts of approaches and at the end of the day it's about the relationship, particularly in trauma work. Do you like your T? Do you feel safe with him? He broke your confidentiality which must be scary, although he may have had a good reason.

I've seen mainly humanistic counsellors (I'm also in the UK and as you know it's the most common approach) but they are all SO different. The T I see now is worlds away from the T I saw ten years ago. Both humanistically trained, yet can't be more different.

I can't comment on different types of therapies as my experience has been gradually healing through the relationship. I needed a mother figure and that's where my healing has been, albeit in different ways.

It's trial and error and I wish I had answers for you, I truly do. I think if you can't see a way forward with this T it may be worth trying a couple of others and seeing what their approach is. I know you say others were stricter with boundaries...it's just so hard getting the right balance with a T and so much of it is about negotiating the relationship as time goes on anyway. At least in my experience.

Your T may be unwilling to meet your needs for lots of reasons, not that they are too much. He may feel it's not his place to, or that you will find a way to meet them yourself or through other means. Have you asked him about this?