You need to talk to a lawyer about what to ask for. It’s fair to assume that your husband has nothing. No retirement plan and no savings. He however must pay child support. There is typically a formula it’s calculated by. He will possibly avoid paying it, working under the table and not declaring it and not paying taxes but you still have to file.

Is the house under your both names? If you want to keep it, you’ll have to buy him out. If not, it will have to be sold and proceeds split.

Keep in mind that he is trying to empty accounts so you need to protect yourself. And he continues getting into debt which you might be liable for. See a lawyer ASAP.

I’d not worry about diagnosing him at this point, it only muddles the water and prevents you from taking care of business, it keeps you meek and powerless and perpetually guilty. Longer you focus on real or perceived diseases or syndromes he might of might not have, more likely you are to continue feeling guilty and less likely you are to pay attention to reality.

The reality is that he continues charging your mutual accounts and withdrawing money that aren’t spent on necessities and you want to send him more money. He has to send you money as you have a minor child at home, not the other way around

See a lawyer. Or legal aide