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and simply isn't ready in his life to be "that committed" to anyone.

I feel that if he were serious about me and continuing our relationship, he would want to get married to me.

We have also discussed children (which I want to have two) and he says he doesn't really want to have children at all, and won't have children until he has a career and substantial income,

What should I do? I need help, as mulling it over all week has not gotten me anywhere!

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IMO - I say IF you truly love him - then wait and stop with the pressure of marriage....... as many males are not near as ready to get married yearly in life as many females are, but give him some time, support and unconditional love and IF he truly loves you he will come around and want to marry and have children - IN TIME.

Now as for why he is not wanting to get married at this moment........ just read the first sentence above in your quote - I think you answered that question your self when you said: he is not ready to be that committed to anyone - that is WHY your bf is not jumping thru hoops to get married...... but that does not meant that he will never marry - he just needs to be ready, as do both parties or the marriage could fail.

BTW - I know two young couples that lived together for years (even had kids together) before they finally tied the knot - one couple was together for 10 years and the other couple was together for 20 years with three kids before they married...... they just enjoyed all the benefits with out the RING for many years in LoVe.