Hi MuddyBoots,

I certainly haven't gotten so close to most of my therapists. I did with former T but I was with her for 10 years and for the first 2 I didn't think about her much out of session or really anything. I didn't feel close to her. But over time, as I shared more and trusted more, I just I don't know, started caring about her and being more vulnerable, and sharing more and that just led to a cycle. And after a while, with her being constantly there for me, I just realized that I loved her.

Another T I only saw for a short amount of time, like 2 months, but I attached to her quickly. I never said I loved her, although I did and it hurt like heck when we ended. It was just a short term thing in IOP.

This T is totally different than any of my other T's that I have seen. I think that what gets me is that she is confident she can help me, and she is confident that I can overcome some things that other T's have told me I would deal with for life. She says of course, she doesn't have a crystal ball so she doesn't know for sure but through the work she has done with other clients, she doesn't think that some of my symptoms have to be a life sentence. I guess she gives me hope and so I am attached to her.

Other therapists I haven't attached to. I don't know if it was just a personality thing, or we didn't really get deep enough, or what exactly. I don't know. I guess a lot just depends on the relationship that is built. I don't know if that answers your question....just my jumbled thoughts on the subject.