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Jul 12, 2022, 01:21 AM
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Member Since: Jul 2019
Location: Downtown Vibes, California
Posts: 15,701
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Originally Posted by Waterbear
I would say opposite... It depends how emotionally gentle and honest the therapist is.
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 ...annnd I'll say that it depends upon the therapist, the client, and the relationship between the t and the client. I've had 2 long-term t's; one was through the veteran's admin; he was something of a macho guy, no nonsense, lay the cards out on the table. Definitely not what I'd call gentle. But he was strong, disciplined, clear, safe. Reliable. Predictable.
My current t is very gentle, honest, warm. I thought her manner meant she truly cared about me. Turns out that she and I are in the middle of a rupture that has rocked my world in a very bad way.
It remains to be seen what the outcome will be. But I do know that even pre-rupture I felt safest with my first therapist, despite his no-nonsense approach. I have struggled all along to feel safe with the gentle therapist. She feels blurry to me.
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