That sucks, Kit. I know it will be hard, but I hope you can tell her that you felt a little hurt or sad, or whatever it is you are feeling.

I just did this with my trauma T. Told her I was sad because we have to miss a session next week. The shame and vulnerability are off the charts. I still am waiting for a response from her. Well I hope I get one, bc waiting two weeks with this terrible anxiety might do me in.

Also: mini-couch advice, maybe?

I have a “ regular” talk T that I’ve been seeing for 7 years. We have a good, solid relationship, and she has gotten me through a lot. I don’t think there is a ton of transference on my end. I really like her, but she had off last week and it didn’t bother me much.

I am not sure if it was because I still had trauma therapy, or I’m not as attached.

Now, with my trauma T, I feel like I am WAY too attached. We’ve been working consistently together for almost a year, but I’ve seen her on and off in the years I went to the crisis center, as she was a T there.

I feel guilty that I don’t feel the same way towards talk T. I guess it would be really terrible if I felt so attached to both.

What do you think makes the attachment different with these T’s? Obviously they are different people and do therapy differently, but I am more avoidant/fearful in my attachments, so this strong attachment to trauma T scares the living daylights out of me.

I feel like she just got a tiny glimpse in my emails I’ve written her in the last couple of days. Thoughts?