Um........two things really................

I think I agree with Split - see if you can find an al-anon meeting. I found out that it sure does make it easier if you have a little tag team support group behind you. These meetings are great for helping you learn how to live your life. And I don't mean that without him in it. I just mean.......living your life.

Also, can I suggest a book that you may want to pick up? It's called CoDependent No More by Melanie Beattie.

Its a real eye opener and a good insight how to take care of ourselves and stop worrying about other people. As a person who has been in your situation...........we always hope for the best and prepare for the worst. Stop preparing, stop hoping, and go on with your life. Sorry to say that but the only thing that can clean him up is HIMSELF.

You can't help him or force him. I know, I know, and I MEAN I KNOW, you really really want to. It is the hardest thing in the world to realize that someone we love keeps doing this to US!!!!!! When, in reality, we are letting them do it to us.

It is hard to let go. I know. I'm there in that limbo right now trying to let go of that damn rope. It's hard and it does not happen overnight.

And may I say what I mean by "letting go" is not "giving up" it is learning to go on with YOU and TAKE CARE of you, dumping his problems in his lap (where they should be) and saying "It's up to you".

If you get a chance, pick up that book. You can find it cheap on half.com

I hope everything works out for you. I've heard meth is one of the hardest addictions to rehabilitate. Even those that stay sober over 2 years lapse..................dear god, I feel grateful that I never touched the stuff.

I agree with Lenny in the kind of "save yourself" theory. HOWEVER, I think the world is a big place. And I think it is up to each individual to chose their limits. Just as nobody can MAKE the addict rehabilitate.......nobody can TELL YOU when it is time to let go. That's up to you.

I give you big hugs and wish you all the strength in the world, I know it's hard.