Wow. We dont expect ts to act so irrationally about appointment times! Sounds like she doesnt know how to handle it. There are probably a lot of things going that are beyond her ability.

One thing youve said that has stood out to me is, you dont want input from her on this or that area (like food choices?). I think this would interfere with her feeling like she is providing you good therapy. Like, how does she hold herself responsible when you say, i dont want to discuss this with you. She cant say, we will look at everything except X, and then X blows up your life, and she's like, oh well, we werent talking about that, not my problem! KWIM? This would apply to anything, like some / many? ts won't take on a client who is actively using substances. Or how you cant go back to the same t after an attempt. Its not abandonment, its that whatever they are doing is not helping.