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StarPonysMama said:

I am talking about her letting go............nobody can tell her when to do that .............. children or not.

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If your speaking of the emotional process,,,sure star...no doubt..no one has the right or the ability to make that happen for anyone.

But I'm not sure of the distinction within the pragmatic realities of addiction. The odds of recovering,,in general, from addiction are 1 in 50,,and that is being generous. The odds fluctuate drastically relative to specific substances.

So,,,when the safety and future of a child is in the hands of a non addicted parent, that parent for better or worse should do their best to leave the illusions behind and deal with actions and not words...

The best of intentions are only that and in my humble experience,,trying is lying...you either do or you don't and leaving the destinies of young innocent souls on the direction of the wind is an unnecessary and dangerous risk...

Statistics are cold depictions of results,,,they don't include hope. That I concurr. But statistics are also very indicative of behavior and that is where the danger lies for those who can't defend against it...

We probably are agreeing here star...so please forgive this unfocused passion from a man who has buried far too many friends...

I'm sorry.

Lennyi