Ok. More explanations in order? Sunny, your post didn't make me sigh--just the effort it took ME to explain my response to Brian....Jello, I never took any offense.

Love you all. I was really commenting on my own narrow view that was expanded greatly when Brian posted.

So>>>>>>>back to how do I know T cares?

Well, I thought of something else. During one of the recent ruptures, T said to me, "Miss, sometimes I think you forget that you are not the only one emotionally invested in this relationship."