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Originally Posted by Rose76
I'm not going to say exactly what I think of your father. Since you've explained the situation in a calm and tasteful way, I'll respect the tone you've set. You strike me as quite mature. You do well not to share a lot with your family, since it just becomes ammunition they throw back at you.
What your father is doing is needling you. Then, I guess, the family follows his lead. He feels empowered. The family has decided this is entertaining. It's pathetic. Each of them needs to get a life. You're role is to stay centered and don't take the bait. Sounds to me like you handle this nonsense pretty well.
Someday you'll be out of there and have your own space. Do all you can to aim for that - complete independence. Don't let this stuff corrode your soul. Someday, you'll see your father as a rather small person who'll hope for you to extend some warmth to him.
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Yeah I agree, I see it as an unwillingness to let go of the past since in most cases when someone goes on and on about something then that's what it is. I'll be honest, I've been in that situation before with certain things. Something may bother me so much that I keep going on and on about it, I don't do it to the level I used to back in high school or even college but I recognize what it is. I think we all do that to a certain point, it becomes a problem when someone keeps going on and on about something that happened decades ago as if it just happened yesterday which is very unhealthy and one day when I'm 100 percent independent and moved out then perhaps I can let him know that he needs to let go of the past and I will say I've told him I let go of the past since it's in the past.