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Originally Posted by downandlonely
That made me think a lot, because usually I am the one who brings up the past with my parents.
My mom used to give me haircuts when I was a kid and keep my hair short. So, although I am female, at one event when I was five, I was mistaken for a boy. I got very upset and have never let that go (it has been over 30 years). Looking back on it, it does seem petty.
My brother's memory is even better than mine, so he will bring up conversations we had over 10 years ago (that I don't remember) and accuse me of "lying" because I have a different opinion now. Apparently people aren't allowed to change their minds. For him, it's his OCD and rumination. He dwells on the past far too much which makes him miserable. I'm working on living more in the present, since the past can't be changed anyway.
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Honestly I think we all live in the past to a certain extent, it's how we deal with it that matters. We can either decide to let the past dictate our lives or we can take it as a learning lesson and move on, I've ruminated as well as we all have but I don't obsess over it. I used to obsess about my past back in high school and even college years but that didn't do any good, it just makes you more miserable thinking about what could've been. You're right that the past can't be changed, the best we can do is take the past as a learning lesson and strive to find ways to ensure the same mistakes aren't made again or at least minimize the chances of the past repeating itself if all possible.