Omg, the iffy comments are really not professional of her, ffs. My T isn't familiar with gender stuff but she's always respectful and affirming of cis and trans patients alike.

It's none of her business on how well you pass or not, (in my opinion) unless you are discussing it with her due to it being relevant. Eg, you might want to pass for safety.

Or in my case, I need to pass as my assigned gender everywhere in my life, as looking more masculine (even without HRT) vastly increases risks to my safety in a bunch of major ways due to where I live.

Plus she's chronically late and flaky? Wow, ugh.