I’ve been searching for years about abuse and all kids of it.
One of the reason for this post is to stress that human relations are sometimes too much complicate and of course when abuse takes the leads over respect and communication, this relationship is toxic and unbalance and pretty much close to end up bad.
What I notice is that we are prone to rush a psychological label to the abuser, we often tend to call him/her a narcissist.
Most of the time the abuse comes from people who are not very different to us but that have issues to fix, from their past childhood with relationship with his/her caretakers, soon experiences, educational roles, the environment they have been developed themselves.
It doesn’t mind they have a Narcissist Personality Disorder. Having a Personality Disorder and the subsequent bad prognosis is rare. And it has to do with a moment in which the individual, for some reason, being very little and just at the moment in which (s)he has to manage the first separations moments with the caretaker. Some kids (few, as I said before) use a maladaptive defence mechanism in which they split themselves from any other human being. Resulting in consider the others as objects (that explains the lack ability to develop empathy). Again, it’s a defence mechanism. Somehow, they are unable to see what’s good in others. They only consider that the caretaker had to separate from them (as it’s normal- to do some stuff they need to do). They are unable to see that this caretaker comes back to attend them. They can only see how bad they felt when being separate for a relative short period of time. That moment, they split their mind, something gets broke and left behind any positive and begin to develop the mask of selfishness. Their mask is real for them. It’s ingrain in their personality.
As you can notice, most of kids are able to consider the person in a whole, with flaws and also very good points.
That’s why develop a narcissist personality or any other personality disorder is not so easy.
These are particular cases. So, I would appreciate we all, especially here that we know for experience about mental health, avoid labels, especially psychological labels.

Why? Especially, for clarity, to avoid misunderstanding and because it’s easier to give a more helpful support since we can understand better the person we are referring to.

Hope you don’t take in this as a telling off.
It’s not avoidable to other people outside use badly terminology but we can avoid it here.

And if you disagree or have any criticism to my post, I’m all ears, ok 😀💖
That’s why we are here. 👍