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eskielover · Jul 19, 2022, 03:54 PM

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In the meantime I'm going to work on my daughter's social awkwardness. I believe that makes her a target for these kinds of people. If you have any suggestions on how to diminish social awkwardness let me know.

My mother was socially awkward most of her life & most of my life while I lived at home. She was very self- conscious & didn't drive or work & my dad took her everywhere. When I was 16, she learned to drive & got her license when I did & I think that was when she started feeling better about herself. Then when I was 21, she got a job as a teller at the local bank. That was a real boost in her confidence & she had to relate with the public. She always had some issues with social awkwardness but go figure, it also got better after my dad died & she started getting involved in things that interested her & people started recognizing her for who she was. It was a slow process but in reality, no one can improve the problem areas in their lives faster than they are capable. The things they get involved in have to be things that interest them & a lot of times the change happens without our even realizing it & we are just comfortable in places we weren't before.

(BTW, my dad never was not socially awkward.....I have my theories.....he died in 1989, long before some issues were ever diagnosed....I think my dad's social awkwardness also had its effects on my mom cause I know it effected me though I pushed it away from me & got involved in so many school activities where I could just be myself & Excell at the things I liked).

Lol....we didn't have therapists back in those days but they sure are awesome to work through things with for kids because figuring stuff out all on your own isn't easy