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Originally Posted by Mendingmysoul
I gave the excuse of pandemic,and didnot visit them for a while.The more time and distance from them ,the better it is.They used to ask me to come over and I thought they were missing me and wanted to spend time with me. This was before my awareness about dysfunctional behaviours. Now I know they donot miss me as a daughter,but they miss the dopamine hit they get when I am in distress.Sad to say but true.That is the reason they play those distressing emotional games.When I visited last time I actually noticed them sneakily looking at my face when they were playing this.I was indifferent and my dad was actually upset.After seeing that I was keeping cool in the midst of their drama,my dad actually held my hand tight and looked intensely into my eyes and repeated the whole fiasco of how much he loves the faux daughter ,the other mending my soul,and how she loves my dad and how they bond strongly as daughter and dad,LOL.I just looked into his eyes and showed no emotion at all. LOL.
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Using the pandemic as an excuse was a smart idea, I think a lot of people did that. I'll admit I used the pandemic as an excuse as well, I'm sorry you had to deal with that.