I don't think debates have to be nasty. I'm reluctant to post now...

I wish I knew my T cares, or do I? He does lots of things, above and beyond duty, that logically indicate it (e.g., I have a long drive and he brought me a pillow for back support in the car), but I'm a cynic. Emotionally, I keep thinking he cares because it's his job. And is that so bad? I'm not sure if it's healthy for me (not necessarily for anyone else), to think any more than that. Or maybe I just don't have the type of trust many of you seem to have acquired.

It's enheartening to see so many positive T postings. I am sure that they are all caring people. I agree that there is no one-size-fits-all answer to what's best. What's best is what works for you, I would guess.

I agree that this is may be a very individual