I’m 50. My libido is near to zero. I never had a very high sex drive either. I’m more a romantic person, I mean more ethereal person. Don’t know if I explained myself well in this last point.

Then, for many years, I took pills for depression that the main side effect was the lost of libido. As this medication worked very well with my symptoms of depression, my partner was very understanding.
We both even learnt to not even think of sex.

Last time we had sex, I had a bad experience. I felt a lot of pain in the intercourse so much that we had to stop and my partner ordered a vibrator so I could use it little by little to recover my elasticity. Still today, I haven’t tried it. It’s as if I try to apart the idea of sex from my mind. But, on another part, I want sex to be a part of my relationship.

Any idea?
Have someone here try the Chinese balls? I’m also considering try it. Since I only feel like having sex while I’m in my menstruation, and it’s not very intense either.

I have to say that I’m not taking the pills I mentioned above now. My current medication doesn’t affect my sexual drive. So, no problem in this sense.