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Originally Posted by Quietmind 2
That's so unfair to you, Scarlet. If you then have a child, do you think he'll step up to actually be a decent parent? His attitude does point to the high possibility (in my opinion) that he's not enthusiastic to have a child.
Maybe he thinks his share of parenting is just going to be the "fun Dad" who isn't interested in the daily work that goes on in reality? If so... it's probably best to find out early.
So sorry Scarlet. I don't want for you to later essentially be a almost single parent, where he just "babysits" on occasion.
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We (I) tried to get pregnant 4-5 years ago? I was on Clomid for 9 months. Then when that didn't work, we started at a fertility clinic, but we didn't continue due to finances. We have never used birth control either.
When I was seeing ex-pdoc, she had me do a homework assignment seeing if I was prepared to have a baby. In it was the strengths and weaknesses that H and I each would experience if we became parents. We all realized after (and even before) that if we became parents, I'd basically be a single mom. My treatment team and I very confident I could do that.
I was hoping with my nieces, H would come around to liking children. H sort of did. He has a connection with my middle 3 year old niece. They just click. He even said he'd adopt her if it ever came to that. So I was hopeful. He also said for us he'd want a little girl, and he would want to teach her sports and be a coach. Again I was hopeful.
But now when I talk to him, he's not against having a child, but he just doesn't seem interested. He says he's fine if we don't. He says he's not good with kids anyways.
I don't know. Right now, it's not going to happen.