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Originally Posted by Discombobulated
Sorry your dad is doing this, I do think drawing boundaries in a way you see as appropriate is a good idea, you know him best and will know which way to say you don’t want to engage in this.
My parents do this about another family member, it is ridiculous to me that they still refer to something which happened 40 years ago in such detail. I try to cut them off a redirect when they do this. In my parents case a big part of it is not having enough to occupy their minds in the present moment. I do have the urge to sing ‘Let it go’ at moments like that though.
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Yeah I think parents have the tendency to bring up the past in general a lot and it doesn't even have to be bad stuff either. I've never thought of not having enough to occupy themselves in the present but it does make sense. I'll admit I'm most likely to think about past events when I'm not occupied in the present as well but don't obsess over it like parents do. I agree when parents and even anyone else keeps bringing up past events in such a way as if it just happened yesterday then I start mentally thinking "let it go" and a couple times I did say that it's in the past and I've let it go.