My brother-in-law is a Vietnam vet, so older man. My sister did stay at home for most of their kid’s childhood but when she went to work my brother-in-law stepped up and helped with the chores. They are both retired now and they do everything. There is no splitting the housework into his and hers they both do all of it. My grandfather after my grandmother developed dementia learned to do the cooking and the cleaning. So I believe strongly that it’s possible for the men to do the right then. I have many uncles of the greatest generation who also learned to help, so you can’t just say that’s an old fashioned idea. I think it comes down to if men are raised to respect others and taught by their parents to clean up after themselves. Unfortunately a lot of younger people aren’t being taught that.