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Originally Posted by Discombobulated
If he already knows it’s upsetting you I’m not sure why he’s not stopping this, you know him best but I do think stating outright when he does it your feelings is a good idea. I don’t think it’s fair that he’s doing this when you’re trying your best to move positively forward.
Edit: I’m referring to when he’s talking about painful episodes in your past in the above. I read your reply to Azul, if he’s just referring to general events in the past (like before you were born) then I would honestly try and divert the conversation to present day.
My parents relive stories many times but they are both elderly now, for them it’s a comfort, a surety, but I’m getting the impression your dad might not be that old.
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Yeah sometimes it's events that happened either before or just after birth but other times it’s painful memories that I really didn't want them knowing in the first place but found out. My parents are in their 60’s so middle aged but I can see how those who get older want to reminisce about the old times which we all do from time to time but I do think it becomes more common when you get older.