It's always been a big issue for me due to my upbringing because emotions were never expressed, or, when they were, they came out in destructive, dysfunctional ways.

It took me many months to show any tears with all the therapists I've had. I still struggle to cry and wish I could more.

I have to say that I've cried the most with current T. On a few memorable occasions she held me in her arms - one time we were both on the floor -and I sobbed against her. I still think about it and feel the relief.

Mostly now I cry every few weeks or so and it's always a relief when I can. Normally it's a few tears, sometimes I end up sobbing a little.

Generally for me, allowing myself to cry with T has been very healing.