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Originally Posted by LostOnTheTrail
Hi Kit,
What jumps out at me from your post is the last line: 'I'm not even in crisis at the moment, so I don't know what is driving this feeling of want.'
You don't have to answer here, but I'd invite you to think about what you've just said. Do you feel like you have to be in crisis to have wants and needs?
As uncomfortable as this feeling is, I think it shows that you are becoming more secure with your T...and that's something to celebrate.
My feeling is that there might be a useful discussion in starting your next session with a conversation about this. 'I wasn't allowed to want or need things as a child, so I find it difficult to admit that I want your support...'
You can of course modify that according to what you feel would be most helpful.
The discomfort is evident in the fact that you've made this post. I hope that you can get to a place of being able to validate your own feelings and needs...but I know how difficult that journey is.
HUGS,
Lost
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Thank you Lost, for your reply. You have, like usual, given me encouragement and something to think about. I did use your words in a second text to my T, the part about not being allowed wants or needs as a child and finding it difficult to admit that I want her support.
BTW, she texted and said she would reach out to me later...don't know why this makes me anxious as connection with her is what I wanted?!! But maybe it's that weird push/pull things with relationships. I get vulnerable and then I freak out that I am vulnerable.
Yes, I do think that I need to be in crisis to have wants and needs.
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I do think that there is some good stuff to talk about in therapy here somewhere. Do I know how to actually do that? Probably not. But we'll see.
Thanks for your lovely reply. HUGS Kit