Hmm, she really has some off the wall responses to you, sometimes. I wouldn’t know what to think either! So, is she telling you your wants are “unhealthy?” But then she goes on to say it is a “win-win” situation. Confusing!

In regards to your original post, I feel ya. I also think it is perfectly ok and normal to have wants and needs, especially emotionally. I say this as a person who is very slowly and begrudgingly admitting I have them too!