It's okay if her response didn't hit the right spot. And you can tell her that without dismissing her efforts. Part of what I learned from L is that not only are big wants, needs, and feelings are okay, but so is asking for them. And I'm still learning how to be more specific. For example: lately I've been wanting soothing. I thought I was being pretty descriptive until L let me know that "soothing" doesn't actually give a specific need... Oye! So were working on what need needs to be met for me to feel soothed. It's a process, but a good process. The more you can practice with your T, the better you'll be able to get your needs met from others as well.

I know it's scary working with feelings (and wants and needs) at first. Well, it's still scary for me. But overtime it is getting easier. I'm trusting L more and more and am learning that she can accept "all my multitudes".

You're doing great, Kit. This is where some major healing can happen. It's not easy, but the reward is that some of your wants and needs will finally be met.