Thread: Crying
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Old Jul 26, 2022, 06:13 AM
ChickenNoodleSoup ChickenNoodleSoup is offline
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Just my two cents on both topics:

Regarding the acknowledgement, as far as I know there's two schools of thought on this. One is to offer a tissue for comfort, to acknowledge the pain and so on. The other is to not offer tissues, and to more or less talk on as normal. My T is the same as your T, he has only given me a tissue twice in almost 6 years and never says anything about my crying.
For the tissue part, I have researched it and the line of thinking is that if you offer a tissue, it kind of says "stop crying, clean yourself up", which is not the message you'd want to send usually. Whether one agrees or not with that is an individual opinion, I'd say it probably depends on the client what a T should do. I'm not sure why there's never acknowledgement, but then again I cry every session.

As for the thing about the crying child: I don't think he meant to say he doesn't like crying. He probably interpreted the question as "do you like them in general, when riding the bus/shopping/unwinding at home", where if it's not your own child, crying is just something that distracts and is annoying. I don't think he meant to say if he had his own child and it was crying over getting hurt, he'd not like it. More if it was crying over wanting to get a chocolate bar instead of another candy or something.
Thanks for this!
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