In my household, it's not an issue. We generally each pull our weight in different ways. When my husband was commuting 2 hours a day, I would do a few extra things, like getting dinner started and washing any dishes left over from the night before. I had two free hours a day working remotely, so it made sense. These days he is telecommuting the majority of the time and many weeks he cooks more than me.

I think in too many cases, women think he will change or sort of look the other way. My ex's sister-in-law was like this. My ex's younger brother was the baby of the family. He lived at home until marriage and his mom did everything for him. She swore that she would get him to change. They got married, moved into their own house and she soon got pregnant. I remember asking her how married life was, and she always complained that he would not do basic things like bringing a dirty dish to the sink rather than leaving it on the table. When the kid was born, he barely lifted a finger. Sadly, I saw her on the street about a year after my ex and I broke up. She was pregnant again. I wonder if she thought, "THIS time it will be different".

I would not have married my husband if he was unwilling to collaborate with housework and other things around our home. People don't usually change.