The thing is, I believe most parents are really trying to do the best they can. They don't always get it right but I don't think it is because they didn't want to. I am not saying you can't want things to be different or make them different -just I didn't ever buy into the blame your mother for everything therapy school. Sometimes they are afraid for you and are trying, misguided perhaps, to help or protect you in ways that didn't work for you. And I have friends who are in their 60s and still blaming their parents even after years of therapy. I think a more reasonable goal of therapy is to put their parenting into perspective. Parents do d good things and they do things that missed the mark (I am not talking about abject neglect or abuse)

But I didn't hire the therapist because of my parents.