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Originally Posted by East17
Different circumstances, but I took a break from my ex-T because I was becoming too attached to her. I found the distance from the therapy relationship helped lessen those feelings, but when I went back, the distance meant I had to work hard at re-establishing the trust again. So that for me, was the downside. Also the attachment feelings very quickly reasserted themselves again, so I don't know how helpful having that break actually was.
Not saying it will be the same for you, you could go back to the therapy relationship after a break and find that you pick up right where you left off. It depends on the relationship you have with your T.
Ask yourself what is the main reason why you want this break. Also, talking about this with your T could be an excellent topic for discussion. If you can unpick it together, you may find you can work through those feelings in a beneficial way.
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Honestly the main reason is to get some ease from the intensity of the feelings I’ve been experiencing lately. We’ve had a few ruptured the past year we have worked through but past few months time between sessions and a few other things have been painful. I know that most of the time this is where the work is but I am tired and wondering if a break would help.
I find it hard to reconnect and reattach with people after disconnecting so that may happen. Even after T goes on holidays it can sometimes take weeks to feel ok again.
I did bring it up to my T in the last session and she agreed it might be good which is fine. I’m not bothered by her agreeing as it does look like the best option right now. I’m hurt by what she said after though as I’ve been with her a very long time . She said she’d be there if I chose to come back and if not that is fine without showing a hint of emotion. I brought this up and she said she wanted me to be able to make my decision comfortably but now I am just hurting more. I’m thinking of not even going to my next session and taking a break from now.