After getting back together after a year and a half apart due to me emotionally cheating on my partner, I have and continue to fail to show up when triggers of the past happen for her. When she needs me most, I shut down from feeling shame instead of showing her compassion and genuine remorse. A few days ago may have been the last straw for her as it happened again. We’ve been on radio silence for a week now and even though I told her I know I can change, I think she’s checking out. I’m devastated knowing this is most likely the end. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

After a year and a half apart, due to me cheating, my girlfriend and I have been back together for 4 months. Over the course of four months I have continued to fail to show up for her emotionally when triggers about the affair happen for her. 5 days ago it happened again and we have barely communicated since then. I feel as though she is absolutely done this time. I’m reaching a panicked mode right now. I want nothing more then to show her how much I care about her pain and suffering but all I’ve done is say words and not backed them up with my actions. She doesn’t believe I have changed and that I’m not doing the work needed to be with her. I need advice and help please.