@rechu, this is the idea. Complement. My partner can do very hard works because of his physical strength and because he’s very hardworking. So there will be moments in which the other party will be there with the help situation. For example, when we bought the flat, we had to do a reform and at the beginning we only could afford to do it little by little and we began by the littlest bathroom and we did it by ourselves.
I proposed him different styles and we agreed for one, I helped him all I could to buy material, to carry them up the stairs, I even learner to cut and stick the tiles and such but he did the hard work.

We are both so lucky. I don’t know in your case but I had to do chores since I were very little kid because I’m the older siblings and my parents had a business so they were for many hours outside home.
And in the case of my partner, It happened pretty much the same and they were lots of siblings so they had to manage themselves very soon.
Then, I see education is key because my parents didn’t ask us for much, they always tried us to focus on school but at the same time they give us little responsibilities and encourage us to do what we may do. That made me effort myself to help them as much as possible. 😀