I know its rough. You can keep your home if you want it. And stop him in his tracks when he gets mean and disruptive. All I'll say is the words "I'll discuss your demand to sell the house with my attorney" are a very effective shield against this type of conflict.

A word of caution about keeping the marital home... a fresh start in a new place where there is no history and no 'bad memories' can be helpful in healing. Before you commit to selling or keeping the house, look into options for a new place. A little soul searching about what you want for yourself a year from now, 3 years, 5 years.... it may help you to decide what's best for you. It's OK to take the emotional high road, but make sure you put your needs and wants first. Your husband won't put you first so you have to.

Hope your daughter and son are coping with these family changes. Hoping for the best for you too.