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Originally Posted by RollercoasterLover
I know its rough. You can keep your home if you want it. And stop him in his tracks when he gets mean and disruptive. All I'll say is the words "I'll discuss your demand to sell the house with my attorney" are a very effective shield against this type of conflict.
A word of caution about keeping the marital home... a fresh start in a new place where there is no history and no 'bad memories' can be helpful in healing. Before you commit to selling or keeping the house, look into options for a new place. A little soul searching about what you want for yourself a year from now, 3 years, 5 years.... it may help you to decide what's best for you. It's OK to take the emotional high road, but make sure you put your needs and wants first. Your husband won't put you first so you have to.
Hope your daughter and son are coping with these family changes. Hoping for the best for you too.
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Thank you! The kids spent a lot of time together today while I was at work. It’s nice that my son came over on his day off to spend time with his sibling..he even took her to an appt while I worked. He’s protective and wise like a much older brother should be.
I am thinking about whether to keep the house or not. The place is in rough shape. It’s too big for two of us. It was good for four people. Properties are way overpriced here right now, so to find something I can afford, I’ll be looking at a small apartment, a mobile home, or some place so far from my job that it would upset the solutions we have now for getting my kid places while I work full time, letting the dog out mid day, etc. I want to have a somewhat comfortable lifestyle and feel like here I will make it month to month with a little something to put away, but husband will never allow that for me if he can help it. Whenever I can take a breath he is certain to make things complicated again.
I don’t want to be tied to him anymore. So that’s a good development for me.
I have been making many minor adjustments but no major decisions. It’s not good to make decisions based on what he pushes for because he’s impulsive and unstable. I will make decisions based on what’s best for my minor child, that’s it. She can tell I’m contemplating something, but I’m not saying what. She keeps asking me if I’m okay because I guess I look mired in thought.