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Originally Posted by elisewin
I don't know comrade, I don't try to give you advice or anything and I realize things can be complicated, but in your position I would like to hear from her wtf was up. I would already be miserable and think of the worst so knowing more wouldn't hurt more, I'd presume. Maybe she really had a mental breakdown or something like that and the answer she might give would lead you to right tracks why she did what she did. I don't know if it would make you feel any better and whatever the explanation is there is no excuse for her to do what she did the way she did.
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Yes, I definitely see the potential benefit of contacting her for more information. However, part of my hesitancy is that I know one email exchange would not be enough for me. I would want to continue to engage with her (either to argue or to hurt her or to try and process how I am feeling) and I know that she would not respond to something ongoing. I am also very afraid that she wouldn't respond at all. Reaching out to her only to be ignored feels far too risky and I want to protect myself from further abandonment - or from the confirmation that she has indeed really gone.