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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight
I would want to know as well. I think it would help me process it if I understood what was going on that led her to terminate so abruptly. It could be that she won't tell you, or might give some vague reason like "personal issues," but I personally would still take the chance and ask.
Also, if I remember correctly, I thought her email suggested that this might be a temporary break from doing therapy for her. By not responding, she might just think you're done and don't want to see her again. When there may be a chance you could resume with her in the near future, or at the very least, have an actual termination session (as I could understand your not wanting to continue regular therapy with her).
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I don't trust that she will make contact again and even if she does contact me, there is no indication that her intention would be to continue work with me (even in the form of providing an ending). As such, I feel that I need to arrive at some certainty for myself as there is so much ambiguity surrounding what has happened. Part of that certainty is to draw some lines for myself. I want her back, desperately, but I can't tolerate the tantalising possibility of contact from her. It is also in my nature to cut off and avoid and that survival response has kicked in (thankfully - it feels safe).
Also, I am very aware that one or two termination sessions would not be enough time for me to process all of this. She always stated that when we agreed to end the work, we would have six months to work towards ending the relationship because we had worked so deeply and intimately. Ha.