I just wanted to say a massive thank you to you both, Favourite Jeans and Quirtmind. Your comments here gave me a great deal to think about and I sincerely appreciate the time it took to write them, and tell your stories.
I am really sorry I haven't replied, it is just that my mind and body are both swamped right now and I didn't have the capacity to reply. I'm not even sure I had the capacity to take it all in, but I haven't forgotten and I felt I really needed to at least say thank you!!
I will certainly be reading both of your comments again when things feel a little calmer/clearer for me, when I can give them the headspace that they deserve. Massive thank yous.