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Originally Posted by ScarletPimpernel
She wrote me. In the first paragraph she says:
WTH does our roles have to do with her vacations? Why make a point that I'm the client and she's thr therapist. I get that she deserves vacations. But does she mean vacations away from me? Like I'm a burden? Because I'm her job?
I know I can talk to her, but I don't want to. I need her to take my pain seriously, not to make excuses. She's going to have her vacations no matter what I do or how I feel. She is not predictable in her vacations except she takes off a week every month because there's so many federal holidays.
I just hurt. And I don't feel like she gets it.
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I could be wrong, but my interpretation of what she is saying is that the roles are part of the bittersweet mix. It would be very odd to tell anybody else you are in a close relationship with that you're just going to disappear for X amount of time and not be reachable and no they can't go with you. And yet the reason you can have this close, authentic, nurturing relationship is precisely because of those roles. She's isn't taking a break from you, but she is recognizing that your pain is very real and part of the sharpness of the pain is because the situation is sort of unusual in the grand scheme of human relationships.