I find that very invalidating of my feelings. I have NEVER asked her to change herself or her vacations. I have ALWAYS been grateful for what she does do for me. This isn't about what she does or doesn't do. This is about my feelings about her taking a LOT of vacations. You're right. You don't know what she is responding to or the rest of the email. You don't know our relationship. And I feel like you're being very judgemental of me.

I uphold my end of my responsibilities as a client. Using these forums for SUPPORT is part of my responsibilities/agreements. I keep nothing from her. Even these forums she has read and appreciates the ones who do provide me with support.

I do have a lot of resources. As I mentioned above, I even reached out to T about this.

For now, I don't know how to talk to her. She already knows how I feel. We're at a stalemate. But I'm keeping my promises to her. I love her. This rupture doesn't change that.