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Originally Posted by ScarletPimpernel
I find that very invalidating of my feelings. I have NEVER asked her to change herself or her vacations. I have ALWAYS been grateful for what she does do for me. This isn't about what she does or doesn't do. This is about my feelings about her taking a LOT of vacations. You're right. You don't know what she is responding to or the rest of the email. You don't know our relationship. And I feel like you're being very judgemental of me.
I uphold my end of my responsibilities as a client. Using these forums for SUPPORT is part of my responsibilities/agreements. I keep nothing from her. Even these forums she has read and appreciates the ones who do provide me with support.
I do have a lot of resources. As I mentioned above, I even reached out to T about this.
For now, I don't know how to talk to her. She already knows how I feel. We're at a stalemate. But I'm keeping my promises to her. I love her. This rupture doesn't change that.
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I remember when my T took a lot of vacations. It was hard even though I know why about the therapy boundaries to keep the work safe, am grateful to her etc etc, like how you don't take L for granted.
I don't know how I'd talk to my T either. She's on a 2 week vacation, first one in quite a while, and it's tough because I'm not doing well mentally, and it's an interruption in my routines. Hers too, because she's said so before that she does think about clients and hope we'll all be okay even on vacation. That's even though both of us obviously want her to enjoy her breaks.
I've not really talked to mine about hers. I want to, because I think there can be good work that can be done, but have no idea how to start.