Its a fair point you make and trust me I have thought about this endlessly but it has consumed her life to the point of making her paranoid, unsociable and a risk to herself and our family. For example she was caught speeding in June and concealed it from me. Instead of paying the fine she has launched into a tirade of letters and emails threatening to use centuries old UK law to issue legal proceedings against the head of police. Seriously? She's now at risk of losing her driving license. She is doing a similar thing to get removed from the electoral roll as she 'doesn't want to be governed' - surely just dont vote!!
She has been in a battle with a care home over wearing a mask while visiting her father. Now i don't believe in face masks but she simply had to wear one from the door to her fathers room and then could take it off (her mother and sister do this and half the time its not needed). She refused and has spent hours sending letters and emails protesting so the home staff watch for her and obviously make things difficult - I am struggling to take her side in all of this tbh as she is like a 'Karen'...I told her this last night.

The time and effort she has put in to these wild escapades while Im working and trying to take our autistic son out. Our talk last night at least got it back out in the open. Where it will go I've no idea atm.